Abundance

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Abundance is, in large part, an attitude

Living an abundant is everyone’s dream. We all want to live a life in which we feel happy and fulfilled. As the quote at the beginning suggests, it’s all about attitude. Your attitude is something you have complete control over. Here are some tips to help you have the abundant life you have been searching for.

  1. Have abundance mentality. This is the mentality that there is enough  for everyone, so someone else’s gain isn’t your loss. By having abundance mentality you won’t feel jealous when someone else succeeds. You know you can have your own success.
  2. Be grateful for what you have. You need to look at what you have and stop complaining about what you don’t have. You can have a grateful spirit no matter how much or how little you have. There are people who need to go through a painful loss before they can see what they have. Don’t let that happen to you.
  3. Smile. So simple, yet so effective. Changing how when and how often you smile can impact and change the course of your day. Even if your day isn’t going as planned you can choose to respond positively. Smiling sends a positive message to yourself and others that you are winning at life.
  4. Start your day right. How you start your day will greatly influence how it goes. This looks different for everyone. For me it looks like this
    • Wake up
    • Exercise (four days a week)
    • Bible Readings and devotions
    • Organize for work
  5. Make the most out of every opportunity. Once you have an opportunity explore the full use of it. Don’t let it pass, half-used. Look for other ways to use it. Maybe combine it with something else to create a new opportunity.
  6. Enjoy your life. Living an abundant life means you should be able to enjoy your life without waiting on something big to happen. You can be happy right now with what you have.

I hope these steps will help you on your personal journey of feeling more empowered.

Brilliant

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What does is mean to be brilliant? How can you obtain it? Where do you start? I have 6 tips to help all women obtain this. Some women are content where they are, some want more. Both are okay, you don’t always have to work harder or longer. You can achieve your goals while being brilliant. You can stay home with your kids and be brilliant as well. Let’s dive into those tips.

  1. Keep a joy list, starting now. On a sheet of paper make two columns. On the left side write down everything you absolutely LOVE to do. Everything, in your life, career, whatever it may be. Build on it. On the right side, write down the things that you hate to do. Anything that gives you the feeling of ick.
  2. Make a plan and commit. Everyday do one less thing on your ick list, try outsourcing. Hire someone else to clean, an accountant to figure our your finances, eat out instead of cooking and cleaning up after the cooking.
  3. Write a list of people you love spending time with. These are the people who make you feel like life is fabulous. These are the people who give you permission to let your greatness shine. Try spending time with at least two of these people a week. Even if it is the same people every week, make sure you are spending time with them
  4. Get clear and honest about what you want. Write it down, communicate it to other people around you. Don’t forget to pray about. The power prayer has on out lives is undeniable. Ask God what is His Will, are you living it out or living the way the world tells you to live? What God has planned for you may or may not be the same thing. So remember, take it to the Lord.
  5. Seek to create, not compete. Everyone is unique. We all have our talents, things we are good at. Let’s use that to create something awesome, instead of always competing to be the best. Sometimes things turn out better when we work together.
  6. Just be you. You are enough, just as you are, right now. You were created to be who you are, not who someone else is. God created you in His image. Embrace it, be confident in knowing, there is only one you.

The Intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. Albert Einstein

Energetic

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Energetic. What does that mean for you? It isn’t the same for everyone. I used to be energetic in the fact that I worked out twice a day. I was a little obsessive about that. Now, it means something else. It means that I get up, work, do the “mom” and “wife” thing, go to bed hopefully by 11:00 pm. Only to get up and do it all again. I’m energetic when it comes to my kids, my work and most of all the Bible. I wake to read my Bible each day and spend time in prayer. I love teaching about the Bible to kids. I am super excited about teaching the entire group tomorrow night about how the Bible is true and useful today.

My energy is dispersed all over now. I workout, but a few times a week as opposed to a few times a day. I am energetic in my fight to spread epilepsy awareness. My daughter and husband have it, different types. My daughter suffers daily, my husbands is more controlled. I was energetic today when, after work, I went out to vote. I feel passionately about our right to vote and choose our leaders. I hope you found the energy to get out there.

There are some daily habits you could work on if you need that extra push to feel energetic.

  1. You have heard it a million times, why not make it a million and one? Start the day off with a good nights sleep. Your brain needs it, your body needs it. To quote Ms. Lorelai Gilmore “You have to sleep. It’s what keeps you pretty.”
  2. Take small breaks throughout the day. When I worked away from home I would get 1-2 hour breaks, all at once. Believe it or not that made the day harder. I would come home, do some clean up around the house, get dinner all set to be cooked and head back to work. I never sat down on my long break. That is until I was pregnant, then I went home and slept.
  3. Eat well. Fruits and veggies is what we need. Not chocolate and caffeine. Those stimulates can confuse your brain and your body.
  4. Exercise regularly. I fall short of this time and time again. Tomorrow is already Wednesday and it will be my first day at the gym this week… oops!!

There you go, a few steps you can try each day to get the energy back that you have been longing for.

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Thriving

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Phew! I have so busy this week. Four kids plus owning a business means I am always up, on by toes and busy. I feel like I haven’t had any time to sit, let alone write. There was Halloween, work and more work, one of my kids turned 14 and I had to go on my kids’ youth group retreat. I have a daughter with epilepsy and a few other disorders and she is a Senior in highschool. She didn’t want to miss her last retreat and the Pastor and leaders are a little nervous because she has had several tonic clonic seizures while at church.

Anyway, lets talk about becoming a woman who thrives. Most of our lives are busy and chaotic, many are often late, unorganized maybe even argumentative with family, friends and their bosses. In order to cope with busy lives we often develop bad habits, bingeing on food or Netflix, maybe smoking or even drinking, just to get over the stress of the day.

Many women today are just surviving. They live to eat, earn, produce and just do what is needed to survive until the next day. Women are meant to thrive, not just survive! Women who are empowered and the ones who feel empowered are the women who are able to drive growth.

To thrive is to stop believing you can control everything…

That’s right ladies, you cannot control everything in the world.  Being an empowered or thriving woman means you know when can and when you can’t control something. So many things are simply our of our reach. We can’t do it, so we feel like we failed. You will feel empowered and in control when you have succeeded at controlling or dominating your circumstance, job, marriage or career, but that won’t last long. It is beyond our capacity as humans to control situations, feeling, how others act and how they think. As soon as you accept that reality, you will fall into a peace with yourself, your life. This acceptance will boost your spirit and help you thrive in all circumstances, no matter what.

To thrive is to stop pretending you possess inhuman powers to do everything…

Women are known for their ability to multi-task. Just because you do this does NOT mean you can manage all things all the time. Accepting this fact is the second key to thriving in this world, especially if you are a woman.

Everyone only gets 24 hours in a day. That is 24 hours to get what is needed done. God designed it that way. He designed it so that for part of that time, our bodies need rest. We need to organize and prioritize what needs to be done each day. Each day I have a schedule, I used to hate getting off my scheduled time to do things. Now, I have a toddler, something I haven’t had in a while. She schedules the day for the most part now. She needs her nap at the same time each day and it lasts three hours! During that time, I usually get my work and writing done. My schedule revolves around her. Including when I stop and play. She needs me more than the dishes need to be washed, or dinner needs to be done. When she wants to play or just snuggle, I am there, whenever she needs it.

To thrive is to start saying “NO” to things you should…

People who say yes to every task they are asked to do often end up disappointing not only themselves but the people expecting them to do the task they said they could do. This applies to everyone, women who work, those who are home, full-time mothers and so much more.

I used to do this, especially with my church. If they asked I was there. I was doing so much at church that I was there as  much as the pastors! Some weeks, more. I thought that if they needed me I had to do it because well, God would be mad if I didn’t. When I got pregnant with my youngest, I was high risk and wasn’t allowed to do all that I had been doing. I was told not to work and not to serve at church, my blood pressure was extremely high and it was dangerous not only to me but to the baby. Guess what? My church did great without me and other people stepped in to serve in the areas I was working in. Now, I still serve but only when I can. I have a lot of down time to spend with family and even in fellowship with the Lord. He wants that more anyway.

To thrive is to put yourself first and prioritize your health…

This is hard, even for me. As a mom of four kids, three teens, one toddler and one with several disorders, it is hard to take the time to take care of myself. This is vitally important. If we don’t care for ourselves, how can we care for others. If I am sick, who is going to get mt daughter to her appointments. If I have a health issue and wind up in the hospital, I don’t get paid, as a business owner, I close and make nothing. I have learned that I need days for me. Days to go to the doctor, the dentist, even a haircut or mani/pedi.

It is imperative that women take care of themselves. We take care of so many other people around us. They will all be okay while we are gone for a few hours. Feeling and being healthy boosts confidence, which women need to thrive and not just survive in this world.

To thrive is to know it is an ongoing journey…

Thriving is not a destination. It is an ongoing journey that continues for a long time. Once you start this journey, it only gets better, there is no looking back. Ladies, if you are looking to reaching that point in your life where you can finally say you are thriving, look ahead. The journey is about to get better.

Worthy

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Everywhere we look someone is telling us what we need to be or do in order to be worthy in the eyes of this society. We are told what to eat, how to dress, how much to workout. We are told when our bodies are considered beautiful and when we are wearing enough makeup to cover up our imperfections. We are told that in order to be worthy, we must be career driven, successful and have it all. If we are home with our kids, taking care of our home and husband than we are looked at as less. We are thought to have settled instead of thrived.

There is a dark truth about many women who find themselves at the top of that ladder. Sometimes, they are there alone. They have no husband, no family and no real friends. While the woman that stayed home has a group of friends by her side, a husband that comes home with flowers in his hand and kids to keep her company. Instead of forcing ourselves to be what is worthy in the eyes of the world. Why not focus on what makes us worthy to the Lord or even to ourselves. Get rid of that fear of judgment!

God told women of their worth in the Bible. He elevated our position and gave us a place of respect and honor within the Christian home. I know in my home my kids and husband look to be for strength, for answers. They come to me when something has gone wrong. The look to me for what is right, how to behave. My daughter knows what to look for in her future husband. My boys look to me to see how women should be treated so they know what to do. When my husband brings flowers, they see my tears well up and the hugs and kisses and thank yous. They know what he did was huge, it made me feel awesome and they want to be that one day. My youngest, who is almost two, looks to me for what is right and wrong. She looks to her dad when it wrong to see if he will let ehr get away with it. 😉 lol

So, what makes you valuable as a woman? Your godliness and virtue. When you are a Christ-center, Spirit-filled woman committed to following Jesus, you will be the godly woman that God desires you to be. Unlike the outside world, God says your value is based on your ageless inner beauty of your Christlike character and how you serve Him.

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Transforming

Sometimes being empowered means transforming who you are. Whether it’s the way you think, what your wear, how you wear your hair or how you look. Whatever makes you feel the power you are born with. Women are a powerful asset in this world. Just think, without women, there would be no men!! We are the givers of life on earth. It takes a lot for us to feel that way sometimes. It is much easier for us to fall into a pit of despair when faced with challenges. Sometimes we just don’t want to do life. Why? Because it is FREAKING hard!!

Today was supposed to be my day off with my youngest daughter and husband. We were going to the Pumpkin Farm. Then my oldest daughter who has epilepsy amongst other disorders, had a  cluster of seizures at school, hit her head and had to be taken to the hospital. That was where I was, while my youngest and my husband went to the Pumpkin Farm. I missed her picking out her first pumpkin. I have never missed something like that. Needless to say I was in my feelings about it. I was upset that my daughter is still dealing with seizures and we haven’t gotten it all work out plus I missed my baby choosing her first pumpkin. I went about my day. I took a shower when we finally got home, and there is where I cried. I just cried, where no one could see or hear. After that I was good to go. Went and taught fifth grade girls about the Bible and led worship for third through fifth grade. Sometime crying just feels good!

By the way, my husband knew how I would feel about missing the Pumpkin picking so he recorded the whole thing. I got to watch it all before I left for church. I saw her go to each pumpkin and touch it, try to pick them up. She picked a little white one, then picked one for her big sissy to paint purple for Epilepsy Awareness month coming up. She also picked a green gourd for some reason. It was nice to be able to watch it, not quite the same but it really helped me get passed my feelings.

I had to do some transforming today. From what I had planned to something new, different and unwanted but I did it. I feel stronger for it. Crying doesn’t make you weak, like I used to think, it makes you stronger, more empowered than ever.

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