Biblical Empowerment

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She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future. Proverbs 31:25

Wow! What a verse that describes how we are to view women. Not as weak creatures with little or nothing to offer the world. No, God tells us that women are equal to men in every way. Women possess great power and dignity. We are full of grace, love, kindness, compassion and empathy. Men often lack many of these attributes. Men and women are equal, but not the same. It’s okay to say that because God has a purpose for both men and women, He did not create us to be the same. Equal, yes. The same? No…

God is within her, she will not fall. Psalm 46:5

When we take God into our lives, He is with us and will not let us fall. Does that mean we will live a perfect life, without hardship or pain? No, it simply means He is there for us, to catch us, to understand and help us along the way. We must choose our path of righteousness. We much look to Him for answers, clarity and mercy. Starting each day in His Word will help us with that. How does that look? Well, for me, personally, I start each day with yoga, to clear my mind and help me focus. I then do Bible readings and devotions. I wrap it up with prayer time. My mornings are filled with Christian music, no tv, no news, no social media. Just me and God. This takes time, discipline, the ability to get up each day earlier than everyone else.

These next several days I will be sharing some verses and insights to those verses to empower us all as women and get us through the day in His Word.

 

Creative

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Being a creative thinker means to take what we know and turn it into a strength we can use to empower ourselves to be more, be the best we can be. As a teacher and freelance writer I tap into my creative side each day. Whether it is lesson planning or blogging, I need that part of me to live each day to its fullest. I listen to music that will get those juices flowing as I am planning or writing.

Whether it is art, or coaching others, teaching, nursing or just being at home you can tap into this awesome entity of yourself and use it. It is my passion to think outside of the box to solve problems. You need to live life as fully and creatively as possible. Believe in yourself and in the empowerment inside of you and what you have to offer the world.

Discover your creative voice. Before you are truly able to, know who you are you need to know what is true in your own heart. Listen to the creative impulses you already have inside of you. They will point you toward knowing who you are and what is right for your life. Your inner voice will guide you to your deepest desires and passions. You must claim your worthiness and get rid of any negative beliefs you have about yourself.

Identify your personal purpose and meaning in life. Doing this will help line up all your focus, actions and investments. What you make of different events and experiences that happen in your life is up to you and no one else. What happens to you because of the actions and decisions of others is out of your control. Stop giving away your power to others because of what they may think of you. Stop looking outside of God and yourself for approval and worthiness. Be worthy in God’s eyes and your own. It is a journey, relationship and practice that comes from within.

Without faith, you have nothing, faith in God, faith in yourself. Faith fuels the imagination and creates reality. Make space in your life for what you want. Expect it to come and let life blow your mind. Commit to be creative in all you do. Without commitment you will fail.

I would love to hear about some of your creative life experiences. What do you do to keep creativity flowing in your life?

Visualize

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Everyone has a dream. We all have something we want, a goal we want to reach. The secret to getting it is to visualize it. I have wanted to start my own childcare for years. It took a friend asking me to watch her son for me to really see my potential as a business owner. I wouldn’t say business is booming but I would say I am successful and close to my goal. I make more than I was when I was working for someone else plus I get to be home for my family. I make my own hours and choose what children come each day. I base it on the good of my family, then look at the needs of the family bringing their child to me for care.

It takes hard work and determination to visualize and meet our goals and even deadlines we have set for ourselves. There is the fear and potential of failure, pressure to give up because it is too hard, and busy schedules. I have a goal to start writing again. I haven’t done it in years. I visualize each day what my goal is for that day only (remember my word for the year is Present). Today, I am writing a blog then checking out my freelance site to see if there are any jobs I am interested in. My ultimate goal is to write a book. But, it will take a little while to get there.

The more detailed your visualizations are, the more likely they are to manifest in your life. Sitting down and writing out your plan each day will help you go into detail and get there more efficiently. Believe in who you are and what your goal is. Without that, there is no way you will accomplish it. There are methods to get you to visualize your goals more clearly. I have come up with three techniques to help you get there.

1. Treasure Map Technique. This technique requires real imagination and creativity. Imagine your goal to be a treasure chest filled with gold and jewels. Whatever you find to be beautiful. Then, map out how you are going to get there. Draw the map complete with the big red X and picture of the treasure chest. 

2. Receptive Visualization. This is the technique I most often use. This requires some quiet, serene surroundings where you can think and visualize what you want. Each day I visualize how I want my day to go, I pray about it, then I execute it. It doesn’t always go exactly the way I would like, but most days my visualization plays out. I need to be realistic in my expectations and think of all that could go wrong and prepare for them. But, I don’t dwell on what could go wrong. I simply put them in my mind so I am prepared to handle any situation. 

3. Altered Memory Visualization. Let’s face it, things aren’t always going to turn out the way we hoped. This technique comes into play on those days. Look at the issue at hand, why things went wrong. Then, visualize all the different ways you could have handled it. Looking at what went wrong can help you visualize what you will do different if you find yourself in the situation again. 

Visualization is a technique anyone can master. It can help you break out of any current limitations you have placed on yourself, as well as any others have placed on you with negativity. Don’t settle for mediocrity when you have the potential to be great. Let me know if you need help or post any stories you may have about the power of visualization in your life.

Energetic

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Energetic. What does that mean for you? It isn’t the same for everyone. I used to be energetic in the fact that I worked out twice a day. I was a little obsessive about that. Now, it means something else. It means that I get up, work, do the “mom” and “wife” thing, go to bed hopefully by 11:00 pm. Only to get up and do it all again. I’m energetic when it comes to my kids, my work and most of all the Bible. I wake to read my Bible each day and spend time in prayer. I love teaching about the Bible to kids. I am super excited about teaching the entire group tomorrow night about how the Bible is true and useful today.

My energy is dispersed all over now. I workout, but a few times a week as opposed to a few times a day. I am energetic in my fight to spread epilepsy awareness. My daughter and husband have it, different types. My daughter suffers daily, my husbands is more controlled. I was energetic today when, after work, I went out to vote. I feel passionately about our right to vote and choose our leaders. I hope you found the energy to get out there.

There are some daily habits you could work on if you need that extra push to feel energetic.

  1. You have heard it a million times, why not make it a million and one? Start the day off with a good nights sleep. Your brain needs it, your body needs it. To quote Ms. Lorelai Gilmore “You have to sleep. It’s what keeps you pretty.”
  2. Take small breaks throughout the day. When I worked away from home I would get 1-2 hour breaks, all at once. Believe it or not that made the day harder. I would come home, do some clean up around the house, get dinner all set to be cooked and head back to work. I never sat down on my long break. That is until I was pregnant, then I went home and slept.
  3. Eat well. Fruits and veggies is what we need. Not chocolate and caffeine. Those stimulates can confuse your brain and your body.
  4. Exercise regularly. I fall short of this time and time again. Tomorrow is already Wednesday and it will be my first day at the gym this week… oops!!

There you go, a few steps you can try each day to get the energy back that you have been longing for.

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Thriving

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Phew! I have so busy this week. Four kids plus owning a business means I am always up, on by toes and busy. I feel like I haven’t had any time to sit, let alone write. There was Halloween, work and more work, one of my kids turned 14 and I had to go on my kids’ youth group retreat. I have a daughter with epilepsy and a few other disorders and she is a Senior in highschool. She didn’t want to miss her last retreat and the Pastor and leaders are a little nervous because she has had several tonic clonic seizures while at church.

Anyway, lets talk about becoming a woman who thrives. Most of our lives are busy and chaotic, many are often late, unorganized maybe even argumentative with family, friends and their bosses. In order to cope with busy lives we often develop bad habits, bingeing on food or Netflix, maybe smoking or even drinking, just to get over the stress of the day.

Many women today are just surviving. They live to eat, earn, produce and just do what is needed to survive until the next day. Women are meant to thrive, not just survive! Women who are empowered and the ones who feel empowered are the women who are able to drive growth.

To thrive is to stop believing you can control everything…

That’s right ladies, you cannot control everything in the world.  Being an empowered or thriving woman means you know when can and when you can’t control something. So many things are simply our of our reach. We can’t do it, so we feel like we failed. You will feel empowered and in control when you have succeeded at controlling or dominating your circumstance, job, marriage or career, but that won’t last long. It is beyond our capacity as humans to control situations, feeling, how others act and how they think. As soon as you accept that reality, you will fall into a peace with yourself, your life. This acceptance will boost your spirit and help you thrive in all circumstances, no matter what.

To thrive is to stop pretending you possess inhuman powers to do everything…

Women are known for their ability to multi-task. Just because you do this does NOT mean you can manage all things all the time. Accepting this fact is the second key to thriving in this world, especially if you are a woman.

Everyone only gets 24 hours in a day. That is 24 hours to get what is needed done. God designed it that way. He designed it so that for part of that time, our bodies need rest. We need to organize and prioritize what needs to be done each day. Each day I have a schedule, I used to hate getting off my scheduled time to do things. Now, I have a toddler, something I haven’t had in a while. She schedules the day for the most part now. She needs her nap at the same time each day and it lasts three hours! During that time, I usually get my work and writing done. My schedule revolves around her. Including when I stop and play. She needs me more than the dishes need to be washed, or dinner needs to be done. When she wants to play or just snuggle, I am there, whenever she needs it.

To thrive is to start saying “NO” to things you should…

People who say yes to every task they are asked to do often end up disappointing not only themselves but the people expecting them to do the task they said they could do. This applies to everyone, women who work, those who are home, full-time mothers and so much more.

I used to do this, especially with my church. If they asked I was there. I was doing so much at church that I was there as  much as the pastors! Some weeks, more. I thought that if they needed me I had to do it because well, God would be mad if I didn’t. When I got pregnant with my youngest, I was high risk and wasn’t allowed to do all that I had been doing. I was told not to work and not to serve at church, my blood pressure was extremely high and it was dangerous not only to me but to the baby. Guess what? My church did great without me and other people stepped in to serve in the areas I was working in. Now, I still serve but only when I can. I have a lot of down time to spend with family and even in fellowship with the Lord. He wants that more anyway.

To thrive is to put yourself first and prioritize your health…

This is hard, even for me. As a mom of four kids, three teens, one toddler and one with several disorders, it is hard to take the time to take care of myself. This is vitally important. If we don’t care for ourselves, how can we care for others. If I am sick, who is going to get mt daughter to her appointments. If I have a health issue and wind up in the hospital, I don’t get paid, as a business owner, I close and make nothing. I have learned that I need days for me. Days to go to the doctor, the dentist, even a haircut or mani/pedi.

It is imperative that women take care of themselves. We take care of so many other people around us. They will all be okay while we are gone for a few hours. Feeling and being healthy boosts confidence, which women need to thrive and not just survive in this world.

To thrive is to know it is an ongoing journey…

Thriving is not a destination. It is an ongoing journey that continues for a long time. Once you start this journey, it only gets better, there is no looking back. Ladies, if you are looking to reaching that point in your life where you can finally say you are thriving, look ahead. The journey is about to get better.

Transforming

Sometimes being empowered means transforming who you are. Whether it’s the way you think, what your wear, how you wear your hair or how you look. Whatever makes you feel the power you are born with. Women are a powerful asset in this world. Just think, without women, there would be no men!! We are the givers of life on earth. It takes a lot for us to feel that way sometimes. It is much easier for us to fall into a pit of despair when faced with challenges. Sometimes we just don’t want to do life. Why? Because it is FREAKING hard!!

Today was supposed to be my day off with my youngest daughter and husband. We were going to the Pumpkin Farm. Then my oldest daughter who has epilepsy amongst other disorders, had a  cluster of seizures at school, hit her head and had to be taken to the hospital. That was where I was, while my youngest and my husband went to the Pumpkin Farm. I missed her picking out her first pumpkin. I have never missed something like that. Needless to say I was in my feelings about it. I was upset that my daughter is still dealing with seizures and we haven’t gotten it all work out plus I missed my baby choosing her first pumpkin. I went about my day. I took a shower when we finally got home, and there is where I cried. I just cried, where no one could see or hear. After that I was good to go. Went and taught fifth grade girls about the Bible and led worship for third through fifth grade. Sometime crying just feels good!

By the way, my husband knew how I would feel about missing the Pumpkin picking so he recorded the whole thing. I got to watch it all before I left for church. I saw her go to each pumpkin and touch it, try to pick them up. She picked a little white one, then picked one for her big sissy to paint purple for Epilepsy Awareness month coming up. She also picked a green gourd for some reason. It was nice to be able to watch it, not quite the same but it really helped me get passed my feelings.

I had to do some transforming today. From what I had planned to something new, different and unwanted but I did it. I feel stronger for it. Crying doesn’t make you weak, like I used to think, it makes you stronger, more empowered than ever.

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