Blessed

blessed

Blessed is she who believed that the Lord will fulfill His promises to her. Luke 1:45

God wants you to live a blessed life! God wants you to be fulfilled in what you do. He wants you to be empowered by His Word and what He has planned for you. Yes, He has plans for you. Whether they are big or what some would call small, He planned it, for a reason. All you have to do is believe that He will give you meaning, that His promises from the Bible will be fulfilled. There are ways, steps to take to live that blessed life we all want so much.

First, you must have a relationship with God. It is not enough to claim we know Him and do nothing to show it. We are to live to serve Him, not others and not the enemy. God is the only way to true life and happiness. Tithing our finances is another step in living that blessed life. Many feel this can be overlooked, why do we need to give money to the church. This is, in fact, one of the most important steps in servitude. Tithing your money will bless you in many ways, starting financially. When you give your money with a happy, generous attitude, you will begin to see God’s work in your life and finances.

Blessings others with what we are given. This can be our money, or our talents. One of my talents is teaching, I just love to see kids grow, especially spiritually. I give time every week to teaching on Sundays and again on Wednesdays. This is the highlight of my week. Going to church and seeing their faces, helping them learn and grow in Christ. We are to improve our abilities, whatever they are. Like I said, I enjoy teaching. In order to teach kids about Christ, I must learn about Him. Each year I go on a women’s retreat to renew myself in the Lord. I use this time to reflect and pray about the year so far and the year to come. It is a weekend full of praise, worship and breakout sessions so we can learn the best way to serve Christ and be fulfilled in our work for Him.

Visualize

visualize

Everyone has a dream. We all have something we want, a goal we want to reach. The secret to getting it is to visualize it. I have wanted to start my own childcare for years. It took a friend asking me to watch her son for me to really see my potential as a business owner. I wouldn’t say business is booming but I would say I am successful and close to my goal. I make more than I was when I was working for someone else plus I get to be home for my family. I make my own hours and choose what children come each day. I base it on the good of my family, then look at the needs of the family bringing their child to me for care.

It takes hard work and determination to visualize and meet our goals and even deadlines we have set for ourselves. There is the fear and potential of failure, pressure to give up because it is too hard, and busy schedules. I have a goal to start writing again. I haven’t done it in years. I visualize each day what my goal is for that day only (remember my word for the year is Present). Today, I am writing a blog then checking out my freelance site to see if there are any jobs I am interested in. My ultimate goal is to write a book. But, it will take a little while to get there.

The more detailed your visualizations are, the more likely they are to manifest in your life. Sitting down and writing out your plan each day will help you go into detail and get there more efficiently. Believe in who you are and what your goal is. Without that, there is no way you will accomplish it. There are methods to get you to visualize your goals more clearly. I have come up with three techniques to help you get there.

1. Treasure Map Technique. This technique requires real imagination and creativity. Imagine your goal to be a treasure chest filled with gold and jewels. Whatever you find to be beautiful. Then, map out how you are going to get there. Draw the map complete with the big red X and picture of the treasure chest. 

2. Receptive Visualization. This is the technique I most often use. This requires some quiet, serene surroundings where you can think and visualize what you want. Each day I visualize how I want my day to go, I pray about it, then I execute it. It doesn’t always go exactly the way I would like, but most days my visualization plays out. I need to be realistic in my expectations and think of all that could go wrong and prepare for them. But, I don’t dwell on what could go wrong. I simply put them in my mind so I am prepared to handle any situation. 

3. Altered Memory Visualization. Let’s face it, things aren’t always going to turn out the way we hoped. This technique comes into play on those days. Look at the issue at hand, why things went wrong. Then, visualize all the different ways you could have handled it. Looking at what went wrong can help you visualize what you will do different if you find yourself in the situation again. 

Visualization is a technique anyone can master. It can help you break out of any current limitations you have placed on yourself, as well as any others have placed on you with negativity. Don’t settle for mediocrity when you have the potential to be great. Let me know if you need help or post any stories you may have about the power of visualization in your life.

Abundance

abundant

Abundance is, in large part, an attitude

Living an abundant is everyone’s dream. We all want to live a life in which we feel happy and fulfilled. As the quote at the beginning suggests, it’s all about attitude. Your attitude is something you have complete control over. Here are some tips to help you have the abundant life you have been searching for.

  1. Have abundance mentality. This is the mentality that there is enough  for everyone, so someone else’s gain isn’t your loss. By having abundance mentality you won’t feel jealous when someone else succeeds. You know you can have your own success.
  2. Be grateful for what you have. You need to look at what you have and stop complaining about what you don’t have. You can have a grateful spirit no matter how much or how little you have. There are people who need to go through a painful loss before they can see what they have. Don’t let that happen to you.
  3. Smile. So simple, yet so effective. Changing how when and how often you smile can impact and change the course of your day. Even if your day isn’t going as planned you can choose to respond positively. Smiling sends a positive message to yourself and others that you are winning at life.
  4. Start your day right. How you start your day will greatly influence how it goes. This looks different for everyone. For me it looks like this
    • Wake up
    • Exercise (four days a week)
    • Bible Readings and devotions
    • Organize for work
  5. Make the most out of every opportunity. Once you have an opportunity explore the full use of it. Don’t let it pass, half-used. Look for other ways to use it. Maybe combine it with something else to create a new opportunity.
  6. Enjoy your life. Living an abundant life means you should be able to enjoy your life without waiting on something big to happen. You can be happy right now with what you have.

I hope these steps will help you on your personal journey of feeling more empowered.

Brilliant

brilliant

What does is mean to be brilliant? How can you obtain it? Where do you start? I have 6 tips to help all women obtain this. Some women are content where they are, some want more. Both are okay, you don’t always have to work harder or longer. You can achieve your goals while being brilliant. You can stay home with your kids and be brilliant as well. Let’s dive into those tips.

  1. Keep a joy list, starting now. On a sheet of paper make two columns. On the left side write down everything you absolutely LOVE to do. Everything, in your life, career, whatever it may be. Build on it. On the right side, write down the things that you hate to do. Anything that gives you the feeling of ick.
  2. Make a plan and commit. Everyday do one less thing on your ick list, try outsourcing. Hire someone else to clean, an accountant to figure our your finances, eat out instead of cooking and cleaning up after the cooking.
  3. Write a list of people you love spending time with. These are the people who make you feel like life is fabulous. These are the people who give you permission to let your greatness shine. Try spending time with at least two of these people a week. Even if it is the same people every week, make sure you are spending time with them
  4. Get clear and honest about what you want. Write it down, communicate it to other people around you. Don’t forget to pray about. The power prayer has on out lives is undeniable. Ask God what is His Will, are you living it out or living the way the world tells you to live? What God has planned for you may or may not be the same thing. So remember, take it to the Lord.
  5. Seek to create, not compete. Everyone is unique. We all have our talents, things we are good at. Let’s use that to create something awesome, instead of always competing to be the best. Sometimes things turn out better when we work together.
  6. Just be you. You are enough, just as you are, right now. You were created to be who you are, not who someone else is. God created you in His image. Embrace it, be confident in knowing, there is only one you.

The Intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. Albert Einstein

Purposeful

purposeful

Living life should always have purpose. Some kind of meaning. No matter who you are. I don’t just mean as a mother, or a wife. You need to figure out who you are and live your life to the fullest. I believe in living each day with intention and purpose. Live a purpose driven life. What does that look like? How can one live purposefully each day?

There are five steps that can help you succeed at this.

  1. Live in the present moment. Many people are either regretting what happened in the past or worrying about the future. God has a plan for you. It isn’t up to you to know His plan. It is your job to live according to His Will for you. Once you start living in the here and now you will soon see what it is God wants for you.
  2. Focus on one thing. As we live day-to-day we often catch ourselves multi-tasking, trying to accomplish more than one thing at a time. This often leads to stuff not getting done correctly and sometimes having to do a task over in order to get it the way it is supposed to be. If we slow down and do one thing at a time, we will get it done and save time in the process. Life doesn’t have to be so hectic and rushed all the time. We get more stressed when we thing it all has to be done at once.
  3. Make changes today, not tomorrow. I was at my daughter’s youth group retreat this weekend. For 24 hours these teens learn how to be godly men and women. It was amazing, eye-opening, to  see how these kids choose to spend that 24 hours. No phones, up at 5:00 am to read their Bible and get the most out of this time. At the very end the youth pastor asked them to write three things down they took away from the retreat. I have three kids that were and they each took something different away. They were asked to make a goal. They each made a different goal. But, they were all told to begin right away, don’t wait. If you are planning to make a change, do it now, don’t wait.
  4. Be of service to others. This is something my church is adamant about. Jesus came to serve, not be served. He washed the feet of His disciples. I am a children’s leader at my church and I absolutely love it. I love teaching as much as I can to the younger generation about Jesus and what He did for them, how much He loves them. I went with my oldest daughter to Soles for Jesus. We sorted shoes to send over to Africa. They often do not have money to purchase shoes. Along with these shoes for their feet they receive the Gospel. That is truly amazing. People from here got to Africa, wash these people’s feet and give them a pair of very much-needed shoes. It was humbling to know we were the last people to touch these shoes that were going there with such a powerful message.
  5. Practice. We need to put our intentions into practice. I intend to do yoga tomorrow before my Bible reading and devotion. That means I have to get up earlier, get ready and do my yoga. Then I have to do my readings and devotion, before 6:00 am, when the first child of the day will arrive. If there is an area that you feel led to grow in then you must practice it everyday. Not here and there or whenever you feel like it. It has to be everyday, in order for it to become second nature or habit.

These five steps seem easy enough to follow, but I can tell you they can be hard. On days that you just don’t want to do life, you have to get up, be intentional and purposeful.

Thriving

thrive

Phew! I have so busy this week. Four kids plus owning a business means I am always up, on by toes and busy. I feel like I haven’t had any time to sit, let alone write. There was Halloween, work and more work, one of my kids turned 14 and I had to go on my kids’ youth group retreat. I have a daughter with epilepsy and a few other disorders and she is a Senior in highschool. She didn’t want to miss her last retreat and the Pastor and leaders are a little nervous because she has had several tonic clonic seizures while at church.

Anyway, lets talk about becoming a woman who thrives. Most of our lives are busy and chaotic, many are often late, unorganized maybe even argumentative with family, friends and their bosses. In order to cope with busy lives we often develop bad habits, bingeing on food or Netflix, maybe smoking or even drinking, just to get over the stress of the day.

Many women today are just surviving. They live to eat, earn, produce and just do what is needed to survive until the next day. Women are meant to thrive, not just survive! Women who are empowered and the ones who feel empowered are the women who are able to drive growth.

To thrive is to stop believing you can control everything…

That’s right ladies, you cannot control everything in the world.  Being an empowered or thriving woman means you know when can and when you can’t control something. So many things are simply our of our reach. We can’t do it, so we feel like we failed. You will feel empowered and in control when you have succeeded at controlling or dominating your circumstance, job, marriage or career, but that won’t last long. It is beyond our capacity as humans to control situations, feeling, how others act and how they think. As soon as you accept that reality, you will fall into a peace with yourself, your life. This acceptance will boost your spirit and help you thrive in all circumstances, no matter what.

To thrive is to stop pretending you possess inhuman powers to do everything…

Women are known for their ability to multi-task. Just because you do this does NOT mean you can manage all things all the time. Accepting this fact is the second key to thriving in this world, especially if you are a woman.

Everyone only gets 24 hours in a day. That is 24 hours to get what is needed done. God designed it that way. He designed it so that for part of that time, our bodies need rest. We need to organize and prioritize what needs to be done each day. Each day I have a schedule, I used to hate getting off my scheduled time to do things. Now, I have a toddler, something I haven’t had in a while. She schedules the day for the most part now. She needs her nap at the same time each day and it lasts three hours! During that time, I usually get my work and writing done. My schedule revolves around her. Including when I stop and play. She needs me more than the dishes need to be washed, or dinner needs to be done. When she wants to play or just snuggle, I am there, whenever she needs it.

To thrive is to start saying “NO” to things you should…

People who say yes to every task they are asked to do often end up disappointing not only themselves but the people expecting them to do the task they said they could do. This applies to everyone, women who work, those who are home, full-time mothers and so much more.

I used to do this, especially with my church. If they asked I was there. I was doing so much at church that I was there as  much as the pastors! Some weeks, more. I thought that if they needed me I had to do it because well, God would be mad if I didn’t. When I got pregnant with my youngest, I was high risk and wasn’t allowed to do all that I had been doing. I was told not to work and not to serve at church, my blood pressure was extremely high and it was dangerous not only to me but to the baby. Guess what? My church did great without me and other people stepped in to serve in the areas I was working in. Now, I still serve but only when I can. I have a lot of down time to spend with family and even in fellowship with the Lord. He wants that more anyway.

To thrive is to put yourself first and prioritize your health…

This is hard, even for me. As a mom of four kids, three teens, one toddler and one with several disorders, it is hard to take the time to take care of myself. This is vitally important. If we don’t care for ourselves, how can we care for others. If I am sick, who is going to get mt daughter to her appointments. If I have a health issue and wind up in the hospital, I don’t get paid, as a business owner, I close and make nothing. I have learned that I need days for me. Days to go to the doctor, the dentist, even a haircut or mani/pedi.

It is imperative that women take care of themselves. We take care of so many other people around us. They will all be okay while we are gone for a few hours. Feeling and being healthy boosts confidence, which women need to thrive and not just survive in this world.

To thrive is to know it is an ongoing journey…

Thriving is not a destination. It is an ongoing journey that continues for a long time. Once you start this journey, it only gets better, there is no looking back. Ladies, if you are looking to reaching that point in your life where you can finally say you are thriving, look ahead. The journey is about to get better.

Renewal

renewal

Today it is on my heart to share with you the five steps to renewing your mind, biblically. I find the Bible to be not only inspirational but extremely empowering as a woman. I love to read about all God wants us to do, for ourselves, our families and for Him. Many people think the Bible is sexist, man driven and inspired. That is not true. First of all, the Bible is the inspired Word of God. Meaning, He chose what was to be put in it. Yes, other men put the words to paper but He spoke them. Second, there are some amazing women in the Bible, Ruth, Esther, Mary, the list goes on. God has expectations of us. The question is, will you follow them or follow how society tells you to behave and live your life?

Step 1: Ask the Lord to guard and direct your mind. Our minds are the place of our intellect, reasoning and intentions. Behavior begins in our minds, as does transformation. They way we think will determine how each day of our lives turn out. We often don’t look to Jesus for protection, direction and oversight of our minds. This is something we need to start our day praying about. Jesus, help me focus on where You want my mind-set today. Amen. 

Step 2: Recognize the source of self-focused and self-defeating thoughts. Our adversary is crafty, he is smart and he is always against us and the Lord. He creeps into our thoughts often. Placing things there to disarm us. We are constantly at battle spiritually. We must pray. Confess. Read the Bible. Pray more. This is the only way to keep our thoughts on God, keep Satan far from us. Fight the good fight for our lives. We must recognize the enemy, and fight him with the power of God’s truth and through the Scriptures.

Step 3: Replace self-focused thinking with a God-focused mindset. It takes work to focus our minds on Jesus. It is hard. Our minds often wander to wherever it wants to go, instead of where it should go. It takes practice, training, daily. It isn’t something that is automatic. We must nurture our minds and focus on where we want it to go. A great verse to help with this is Colossians 3:1-2 If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. 

Step 4: Rest in the truth that you are accepted in Jesus Christ. Pray for the Lord to protect our minds. I mentioned this earlier. It is important to pray each and every day for Him to protect our minds. It is also good to rest in Him. There will be successful days as well as unsuccessful days. It is something we can work on each day. I challenge you to rest in knowing you are His and He is yours, forever. He wants you to be successful but will not give up on you when mistakes are made. After all, He created us to make mistakes so we rely on Him as much as possible, in all things.

Step 5: Repeat steps 1-4 daily. There is no fear in God’s love. When we feel afraid or defeated we can trust in God’s love. It will never fade away. He loves us, forever. Ultimately, He would like for us to be more like Jesus. His thoughts never deviated from the Father. He was always in fellowship with Him. We can strive for that but can we accomplish that? Probably not, we are not perfect. God created us to need Him. He created us to search for Him, to feel the love He has for us. If we are in constant fellowship with Him then what would He have left to accomplish in us?

Tell me: How do you keep your mind from dwelling on unhealthy, untrue or distracting thoughts?

Comment your answers below…