Align

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  It is often easy to lose the momentum we need to keep at it in the new year. Resolutions have been made but are often difficult to keep. We make unrealistic goals for ourselves then become frustrated when unable to keep them. Why is that? It is because our goals often do not align with what God has in store for us. We want our lives to look a certain way and are hard on ourselves when what we want doesn’t happen. Our lives are not our own. We belong to God, our lives need to align with His plan. He will put in front of us what He has chosen for us. It is up to us to live according to it.

There are ways we can stay aligned with God’s purpose, even if we are struggling to be productive. These are tips that I hope to execute in the new year.

1. Plan when you will have quiet time each day. This is something I have already been doing in my life. I love the mornings. I have to get up pretty early, between 4:00 am-5:00 am, in order to get in my workout and quiet time. During this time I do my Bible readings, devotions, journaling and prayer time. It is usually 30-45 minutes each day. My husband and I have also started a new marriage devotional that we do each night. Quiet time together, reflecting on our marriage will make us stronger together.

2. Make a list of your daily priorities. Life can be so busy! Making a list helps keep you on track. This is something I often do on the weekends. However, being a mom of four, I also have to make lists during the week to remember to make appointments or get stuff together to help my daughter apply for college.

3. Choose a word for the year. This is something I talked about yesterday. Take time to think about what you want that word to be. You don’t have to choose it right away. Think about your life, what you need to change and choose the word carefully and thoughtfully. This will help keep you on your chosen path.

4. Put away your phone. Believe it our not, our phones can cause so much stress and drama in our lives. I make it a point to have my ringer off during various points of the day. The only social media I try to use during the day is my business accounts. I post pictures of the kids I care for so the parents can see what they are up to. I am looking to change the use of phones and social media in my household. My kids actually don’t use it that much. It is my husband and I that need to work on that!

5. Use mealtimes to check in with God. When my teens were younger we did family devotion time at dinner. We used this time to sit together each night and discuss our day. We then did Bible drills and a daily devotion that our church provided us with. Now, they are older and it is harder to get this done, more so because of the toddler we have at our table. She demands a little more attention. I think it is time to start implementing short devotion again in our home to get her used to doing it.

Productivity is best when aligned with God’s purpose for you. Keep perspective by putting God first in your life.

Brilliant

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What does is mean to be brilliant? How can you obtain it? Where do you start? I have 6 tips to help all women obtain this. Some women are content where they are, some want more. Both are okay, you don’t always have to work harder or longer. You can achieve your goals while being brilliant. You can stay home with your kids and be brilliant as well. Let’s dive into those tips.

  1. Keep a joy list, starting now. On a sheet of paper make two columns. On the left side write down everything you absolutely LOVE to do. Everything, in your life, career, whatever it may be. Build on it. On the right side, write down the things that you hate to do. Anything that gives you the feeling of ick.
  2. Make a plan and commit. Everyday do one less thing on your ick list, try outsourcing. Hire someone else to clean, an accountant to figure our your finances, eat out instead of cooking and cleaning up after the cooking.
  3. Write a list of people you love spending time with. These are the people who make you feel like life is fabulous. These are the people who give you permission to let your greatness shine. Try spending time with at least two of these people a week. Even if it is the same people every week, make sure you are spending time with them
  4. Get clear and honest about what you want. Write it down, communicate it to other people around you. Don’t forget to pray about. The power prayer has on out lives is undeniable. Ask God what is His Will, are you living it out or living the way the world tells you to live? What God has planned for you may or may not be the same thing. So remember, take it to the Lord.
  5. Seek to create, not compete. Everyone is unique. We all have our talents, things we are good at. Let’s use that to create something awesome, instead of always competing to be the best. Sometimes things turn out better when we work together.
  6. Just be you. You are enough, just as you are, right now. You were created to be who you are, not who someone else is. God created you in His image. Embrace it, be confident in knowing, there is only one you.

The Intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. Albert Einstein

Purposeful

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Living life should always have purpose. Some kind of meaning. No matter who you are. I don’t just mean as a mother, or a wife. You need to figure out who you are and live your life to the fullest. I believe in living each day with intention and purpose. Live a purpose driven life. What does that look like? How can one live purposefully each day?

There are five steps that can help you succeed at this.

  1. Live in the present moment. Many people are either regretting what happened in the past or worrying about the future. God has a plan for you. It isn’t up to you to know His plan. It is your job to live according to His Will for you. Once you start living in the here and now you will soon see what it is God wants for you.
  2. Focus on one thing. As we live day-to-day we often catch ourselves multi-tasking, trying to accomplish more than one thing at a time. This often leads to stuff not getting done correctly and sometimes having to do a task over in order to get it the way it is supposed to be. If we slow down and do one thing at a time, we will get it done and save time in the process. Life doesn’t have to be so hectic and rushed all the time. We get more stressed when we thing it all has to be done at once.
  3. Make changes today, not tomorrow. I was at my daughter’s youth group retreat this weekend. For 24 hours these teens learn how to be godly men and women. It was amazing, eye-opening, to  see how these kids choose to spend that 24 hours. No phones, up at 5:00 am to read their Bible and get the most out of this time. At the very end the youth pastor asked them to write three things down they took away from the retreat. I have three kids that were and they each took something different away. They were asked to make a goal. They each made a different goal. But, they were all told to begin right away, don’t wait. If you are planning to make a change, do it now, don’t wait.
  4. Be of service to others. This is something my church is adamant about. Jesus came to serve, not be served. He washed the feet of His disciples. I am a children’s leader at my church and I absolutely love it. I love teaching as much as I can to the younger generation about Jesus and what He did for them, how much He loves them. I went with my oldest daughter to Soles for Jesus. We sorted shoes to send over to Africa. They often do not have money to purchase shoes. Along with these shoes for their feet they receive the Gospel. That is truly amazing. People from here got to Africa, wash these people’s feet and give them a pair of very much-needed shoes. It was humbling to know we were the last people to touch these shoes that were going there with such a powerful message.
  5. Practice. We need to put our intentions into practice. I intend to do yoga tomorrow before my Bible reading and devotion. That means I have to get up earlier, get ready and do my yoga. Then I have to do my readings and devotion, before 6:00 am, when the first child of the day will arrive. If there is an area that you feel led to grow in then you must practice it everyday. Not here and there or whenever you feel like it. It has to be everyday, in order for it to become second nature or habit.

These five steps seem easy enough to follow, but I can tell you they can be hard. On days that you just don’t want to do life, you have to get up, be intentional and purposeful.

Worthy

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Everywhere we look someone is telling us what we need to be or do in order to be worthy in the eyes of this society. We are told what to eat, how to dress, how much to workout. We are told when our bodies are considered beautiful and when we are wearing enough makeup to cover up our imperfections. We are told that in order to be worthy, we must be career driven, successful and have it all. If we are home with our kids, taking care of our home and husband than we are looked at as less. We are thought to have settled instead of thrived.

There is a dark truth about many women who find themselves at the top of that ladder. Sometimes, they are there alone. They have no husband, no family and no real friends. While the woman that stayed home has a group of friends by her side, a husband that comes home with flowers in his hand and kids to keep her company. Instead of forcing ourselves to be what is worthy in the eyes of the world. Why not focus on what makes us worthy to the Lord or even to ourselves. Get rid of that fear of judgment!

God told women of their worth in the Bible. He elevated our position and gave us a place of respect and honor within the Christian home. I know in my home my kids and husband look to be for strength, for answers. They come to me when something has gone wrong. The look to me for what is right, how to behave. My daughter knows what to look for in her future husband. My boys look to me to see how women should be treated so they know what to do. When my husband brings flowers, they see my tears well up and the hugs and kisses and thank yous. They know what he did was huge, it made me feel awesome and they want to be that one day. My youngest, who is almost two, looks to me for what is right and wrong. She looks to her dad when it wrong to see if he will let ehr get away with it. 😉 lol

So, what makes you valuable as a woman? Your godliness and virtue. When you are a Christ-center, Spirit-filled woman committed to following Jesus, you will be the godly woman that God desires you to be. Unlike the outside world, God says your value is based on your ageless inner beauty of your Christlike character and how you serve Him.

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Wellness

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Women are always worried about their health. Don’t get me wrong, it is important and it is something I take care of. I consider myself healthy. Healthy isn’t always super skinny. It is your best you. It means taking care of yourself mentally and even Spiritually. That is what I am writing about today, Spiritual Wellness. In our society, it is hard to put God first, talk about Him, live as Jesus did. Why is it so hard? Christians are judged harshly for our belief and our desire to follow the Bible. Many people see the Bible as unattainable, old school laws that do not relate to today. I am here to tell you the Bible relates to today 100%. God did not have His Words put to paper to just have them fade to the background of out lives.

 

I try to do my Bible readings each day, daily devotions and prayer journal. I absolutely love Proverbs 31 Woman devos. I usually post something I took from my morning in the word and post it on social media to try to help others put God in their lives. You need a daily dose, maybe more than that. People have told me that when I don’t make that post, which is more often than I would like, it hurts their day. The look for it each morning to start their day. I tell them where I get it from and that I get it emailed to me each day for free. I get told that they are too busy to read a full devo or email but they love the verses, pictures and mini devo I do.

 

My teens attend youth group twice a week as well as any activities, retreats, and serving in the community they may do. Just recently my church held Gather to Scatter, which is where the teens gather together at church then scatter into the community to serve others. My daughter went to Soles for Jesus, amazing way to serve others in countries like Africa who have little to no access to shoes. In America, we often do not understand how important shoes are to one’s health but they truly are a very needed item around the world. It’s amazing that these shoes will be shipped and distributed along with the Gospel to people who have never heard it. One of my sons went to a grocery store to help distribute flyers and collect food for our local food pantry. They collected 6,000 pounds!! I think an important part of one’s spiritual life is servitude. Jesus came to serve others not to be served. It is humbling to be a part of the solution and know my children a contributing to society.

 

 

I lead fifth grade girls each Wednesday to know more about God, the Bible, Prayer, and what Jesus did for us. My hope is that I will be the influence they need to want to know more about Jesus so they will grow to live Spiritually healthy lives. I also get the privilege of leading Kindergartners and first graders on Sunday mornings. These little ones are just starting in the journey of knowing who Jesus is, what He did for them and His great love for them. They have so many questions, sometimes difficult ones but I try my best to always answer them. I do not take my serving positions lightly. I work on my lesson plans each week for them diligently. I receive the greatest payment of all when a child comes to know the Lord because I helped them understand His great love for them.

 

My prayer for everyone reading this blog is to ask questions, get answers, read your Bible as much as you can, it will turn daily. Come to know the Lord, pray, know His love for you. Then your Spiritual wellness will be coming together, which will help your wellness as a whole. Have an awesome day ladies (and any gentlemen).