Energetic

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Energetic. What does that mean for you? It isn’t the same for everyone. I used to be energetic in the fact that I worked out twice a day. I was a little obsessive about that. Now, it means something else. It means that I get up, work, do the “mom” and “wife” thing, go to bed hopefully by 11:00 pm. Only to get up and do it all again. I’m energetic when it comes to my kids, my work and most of all the Bible. I wake to read my Bible each day and spend time in prayer. I love teaching about the Bible to kids. I am super excited about teaching the entire group tomorrow night about how the Bible is true and useful today.

My energy is dispersed all over now. I workout, but a few times a week as opposed to a few times a day. I am energetic in my fight to spread epilepsy awareness. My daughter and husband have it, different types. My daughter suffers daily, my husbands is more controlled. I was energetic today when, after work, I went out to vote. I feel passionately about our right to vote and choose our leaders. I hope you found the energy to get out there.

There are some daily habits you could work on if you need that extra push to feel energetic.

  1. You have heard it a million times, why not make it a million and one? Start the day off with a good nights sleep. Your brain needs it, your body needs it. To quote Ms. Lorelai Gilmore “You have to sleep. It’s what keeps you pretty.”
  2. Take small breaks throughout the day. When I worked away from home I would get 1-2 hour breaks, all at once. Believe it or not that made the day harder. I would come home, do some clean up around the house, get dinner all set to be cooked and head back to work. I never sat down on my long break. That is until I was pregnant, then I went home and slept.
  3. Eat well. Fruits and veggies is what we need. Not chocolate and caffeine. Those stimulates can confuse your brain and your body.
  4. Exercise regularly. I fall short of this time and time again. Tomorrow is already Wednesday and it will be my first day at the gym this week… oops!!

There you go, a few steps you can try each day to get the energy back that you have been longing for.

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Thriving

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Phew! I have so busy this week. Four kids plus owning a business means I am always up, on by toes and busy. I feel like I haven’t had any time to sit, let alone write. There was Halloween, work and more work, one of my kids turned 14 and I had to go on my kids’ youth group retreat. I have a daughter with epilepsy and a few other disorders and she is a Senior in highschool. She didn’t want to miss her last retreat and the Pastor and leaders are a little nervous because she has had several tonic clonic seizures while at church.

Anyway, lets talk about becoming a woman who thrives. Most of our lives are busy and chaotic, many are often late, unorganized maybe even argumentative with family, friends and their bosses. In order to cope with busy lives we often develop bad habits, bingeing on food or Netflix, maybe smoking or even drinking, just to get over the stress of the day.

Many women today are just surviving. They live to eat, earn, produce and just do what is needed to survive until the next day. Women are meant to thrive, not just survive! Women who are empowered and the ones who feel empowered are the women who are able to drive growth.

To thrive is to stop believing you can control everything…

That’s right ladies, you cannot control everything in the world.  Being an empowered or thriving woman means you know when can and when you can’t control something. So many things are simply our of our reach. We can’t do it, so we feel like we failed. You will feel empowered and in control when you have succeeded at controlling or dominating your circumstance, job, marriage or career, but that won’t last long. It is beyond our capacity as humans to control situations, feeling, how others act and how they think. As soon as you accept that reality, you will fall into a peace with yourself, your life. This acceptance will boost your spirit and help you thrive in all circumstances, no matter what.

To thrive is to stop pretending you possess inhuman powers to do everything…

Women are known for their ability to multi-task. Just because you do this does NOT mean you can manage all things all the time. Accepting this fact is the second key to thriving in this world, especially if you are a woman.

Everyone only gets 24 hours in a day. That is 24 hours to get what is needed done. God designed it that way. He designed it so that for part of that time, our bodies need rest. We need to organize and prioritize what needs to be done each day. Each day I have a schedule, I used to hate getting off my scheduled time to do things. Now, I have a toddler, something I haven’t had in a while. She schedules the day for the most part now. She needs her nap at the same time each day and it lasts three hours! During that time, I usually get my work and writing done. My schedule revolves around her. Including when I stop and play. She needs me more than the dishes need to be washed, or dinner needs to be done. When she wants to play or just snuggle, I am there, whenever she needs it.

To thrive is to start saying “NO” to things you should…

People who say yes to every task they are asked to do often end up disappointing not only themselves but the people expecting them to do the task they said they could do. This applies to everyone, women who work, those who are home, full-time mothers and so much more.

I used to do this, especially with my church. If they asked I was there. I was doing so much at church that I was there as  much as the pastors! Some weeks, more. I thought that if they needed me I had to do it because well, God would be mad if I didn’t. When I got pregnant with my youngest, I was high risk and wasn’t allowed to do all that I had been doing. I was told not to work and not to serve at church, my blood pressure was extremely high and it was dangerous not only to me but to the baby. Guess what? My church did great without me and other people stepped in to serve in the areas I was working in. Now, I still serve but only when I can. I have a lot of down time to spend with family and even in fellowship with the Lord. He wants that more anyway.

To thrive is to put yourself first and prioritize your health…

This is hard, even for me. As a mom of four kids, three teens, one toddler and one with several disorders, it is hard to take the time to take care of myself. This is vitally important. If we don’t care for ourselves, how can we care for others. If I am sick, who is going to get mt daughter to her appointments. If I have a health issue and wind up in the hospital, I don’t get paid, as a business owner, I close and make nothing. I have learned that I need days for me. Days to go to the doctor, the dentist, even a haircut or mani/pedi.

It is imperative that women take care of themselves. We take care of so many other people around us. They will all be okay while we are gone for a few hours. Feeling and being healthy boosts confidence, which women need to thrive and not just survive in this world.

To thrive is to know it is an ongoing journey…

Thriving is not a destination. It is an ongoing journey that continues for a long time. Once you start this journey, it only gets better, there is no looking back. Ladies, if you are looking to reaching that point in your life where you can finally say you are thriving, look ahead. The journey is about to get better.

Renewal

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Today it is on my heart to share with you the five steps to renewing your mind, biblically. I find the Bible to be not only inspirational but extremely empowering as a woman. I love to read about all God wants us to do, for ourselves, our families and for Him. Many people think the Bible is sexist, man driven and inspired. That is not true. First of all, the Bible is the inspired Word of God. Meaning, He chose what was to be put in it. Yes, other men put the words to paper but He spoke them. Second, there are some amazing women in the Bible, Ruth, Esther, Mary, the list goes on. God has expectations of us. The question is, will you follow them or follow how society tells you to behave and live your life?

Step 1: Ask the Lord to guard and direct your mind. Our minds are the place of our intellect, reasoning and intentions. Behavior begins in our minds, as does transformation. They way we think will determine how each day of our lives turn out. We often don’t look to Jesus for protection, direction and oversight of our minds. This is something we need to start our day praying about. Jesus, help me focus on where You want my mind-set today. Amen. 

Step 2: Recognize the source of self-focused and self-defeating thoughts. Our adversary is crafty, he is smart and he is always against us and the Lord. He creeps into our thoughts often. Placing things there to disarm us. We are constantly at battle spiritually. We must pray. Confess. Read the Bible. Pray more. This is the only way to keep our thoughts on God, keep Satan far from us. Fight the good fight for our lives. We must recognize the enemy, and fight him with the power of God’s truth and through the Scriptures.

Step 3: Replace self-focused thinking with a God-focused mindset. It takes work to focus our minds on Jesus. It is hard. Our minds often wander to wherever it wants to go, instead of where it should go. It takes practice, training, daily. It isn’t something that is automatic. We must nurture our minds and focus on where we want it to go. A great verse to help with this is Colossians 3:1-2 If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. 

Step 4: Rest in the truth that you are accepted in Jesus Christ. Pray for the Lord to protect our minds. I mentioned this earlier. It is important to pray each and every day for Him to protect our minds. It is also good to rest in Him. There will be successful days as well as unsuccessful days. It is something we can work on each day. I challenge you to rest in knowing you are His and He is yours, forever. He wants you to be successful but will not give up on you when mistakes are made. After all, He created us to make mistakes so we rely on Him as much as possible, in all things.

Step 5: Repeat steps 1-4 daily. There is no fear in God’s love. When we feel afraid or defeated we can trust in God’s love. It will never fade away. He loves us, forever. Ultimately, He would like for us to be more like Jesus. His thoughts never deviated from the Father. He was always in fellowship with Him. We can strive for that but can we accomplish that? Probably not, we are not perfect. God created us to need Him. He created us to search for Him, to feel the love He has for us. If we are in constant fellowship with Him then what would He have left to accomplish in us?

Tell me: How do you keep your mind from dwelling on unhealthy, untrue or distracting thoughts?

Comment your answers below…

Radiant

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What does it mean to be radiant. Being beautiful and being radiant are two totally different thing. You can make yourself beautiful on the outside by artificial and superficial means. Makeup, clothes, hair, shoes, surgery, the list goes on about how we can change our looks to be what society considers beautiful. But to be radiant? Is it obtainable and if so, how do you become radiant?

One of the things that sets a radiant woman apart from others is confidence. This is not confidence that exudes itself as arrogant or conceited. It isn’t based on anything she can do such as beauty, possessions, talent or popularity. Her confidence is found in Christ alone, what He has done for her and who she is in Him. A radiant woman is confident in Christ. 

Next is beauty, not the beauty I mentioned that is artificial or superficial, but true inner beauty. This beauty comes from a beautiful heart, full of genuine love and kindness. Her beauty is not only seen but felt by all who come in contact with her. Her beauty is genuine and true. A radiant woman is beautiful on the inside.

Finally, the last trait I have for you this morning. She is joyful. Being joyful and being happy are two different things. Many people thing that if you are happy then you have joy but that isn’t true. Happiness is based on circumstances and material things, joy is found in the Savior. She goes to Him for joy when happiness is nowhere to be found. Joy flows out of her heart to others around her. A radiant woman is full of joy…for the LORD.

Personally, I know I am far from being all of these things all of the time. It is hard! There are days that I am good at it and feel radiant, other days, not so much. I feel drained, not willing to be anything I listed above. I fake it, sometimes well, sometimes not. We should pray each day that we have these traits, not only for the Lord but for ourselves and to be a light to others who need it. By becoming more radiant we can shine a light into the lives and hearts of others. 

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Worthy

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Everywhere we look someone is telling us what we need to be or do in order to be worthy in the eyes of this society. We are told what to eat, how to dress, how much to workout. We are told when our bodies are considered beautiful and when we are wearing enough makeup to cover up our imperfections. We are told that in order to be worthy, we must be career driven, successful and have it all. If we are home with our kids, taking care of our home and husband than we are looked at as less. We are thought to have settled instead of thrived.

There is a dark truth about many women who find themselves at the top of that ladder. Sometimes, they are there alone. They have no husband, no family and no real friends. While the woman that stayed home has a group of friends by her side, a husband that comes home with flowers in his hand and kids to keep her company. Instead of forcing ourselves to be what is worthy in the eyes of the world. Why not focus on what makes us worthy to the Lord or even to ourselves. Get rid of that fear of judgment!

God told women of their worth in the Bible. He elevated our position and gave us a place of respect and honor within the Christian home. I know in my home my kids and husband look to be for strength, for answers. They come to me when something has gone wrong. The look to me for what is right, how to behave. My daughter knows what to look for in her future husband. My boys look to me to see how women should be treated so they know what to do. When my husband brings flowers, they see my tears well up and the hugs and kisses and thank yous. They know what he did was huge, it made me feel awesome and they want to be that one day. My youngest, who is almost two, looks to me for what is right and wrong. She looks to her dad when it wrong to see if he will let ehr get away with it. 😉 lol

So, what makes you valuable as a woman? Your godliness and virtue. When you are a Christ-center, Spirit-filled woman committed to following Jesus, you will be the godly woman that God desires you to be. Unlike the outside world, God says your value is based on your ageless inner beauty of your Christlike character and how you serve Him.

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Wellness

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Women are always worried about their health. Don’t get me wrong, it is important and it is something I take care of. I consider myself healthy. Healthy isn’t always super skinny. It is your best you. It means taking care of yourself mentally and even Spiritually. That is what I am writing about today, Spiritual Wellness. In our society, it is hard to put God first, talk about Him, live as Jesus did. Why is it so hard? Christians are judged harshly for our belief and our desire to follow the Bible. Many people see the Bible as unattainable, old school laws that do not relate to today. I am here to tell you the Bible relates to today 100%. God did not have His Words put to paper to just have them fade to the background of out lives.

 

I try to do my Bible readings each day, daily devotions and prayer journal. I absolutely love Proverbs 31 Woman devos. I usually post something I took from my morning in the word and post it on social media to try to help others put God in their lives. You need a daily dose, maybe more than that. People have told me that when I don’t make that post, which is more often than I would like, it hurts their day. The look for it each morning to start their day. I tell them where I get it from and that I get it emailed to me each day for free. I get told that they are too busy to read a full devo or email but they love the verses, pictures and mini devo I do.

 

My teens attend youth group twice a week as well as any activities, retreats, and serving in the community they may do. Just recently my church held Gather to Scatter, which is where the teens gather together at church then scatter into the community to serve others. My daughter went to Soles for Jesus, amazing way to serve others in countries like Africa who have little to no access to shoes. In America, we often do not understand how important shoes are to one’s health but they truly are a very needed item around the world. It’s amazing that these shoes will be shipped and distributed along with the Gospel to people who have never heard it. One of my sons went to a grocery store to help distribute flyers and collect food for our local food pantry. They collected 6,000 pounds!! I think an important part of one’s spiritual life is servitude. Jesus came to serve others not to be served. It is humbling to be a part of the solution and know my children a contributing to society.

 

 

I lead fifth grade girls each Wednesday to know more about God, the Bible, Prayer, and what Jesus did for us. My hope is that I will be the influence they need to want to know more about Jesus so they will grow to live Spiritually healthy lives. I also get the privilege of leading Kindergartners and first graders on Sunday mornings. These little ones are just starting in the journey of knowing who Jesus is, what He did for them and His great love for them. They have so many questions, sometimes difficult ones but I try my best to always answer them. I do not take my serving positions lightly. I work on my lesson plans each week for them diligently. I receive the greatest payment of all when a child comes to know the Lord because I helped them understand His great love for them.

 

My prayer for everyone reading this blog is to ask questions, get answers, read your Bible as much as you can, it will turn daily. Come to know the Lord, pray, know His love for you. Then your Spiritual wellness will be coming together, which will help your wellness as a whole. Have an awesome day ladies (and any gentlemen).

Transforming

Sometimes being empowered means transforming who you are. Whether it’s the way you think, what your wear, how you wear your hair or how you look. Whatever makes you feel the power you are born with. Women are a powerful asset in this world. Just think, without women, there would be no men!! We are the givers of life on earth. It takes a lot for us to feel that way sometimes. It is much easier for us to fall into a pit of despair when faced with challenges. Sometimes we just don’t want to do life. Why? Because it is FREAKING hard!!

Today was supposed to be my day off with my youngest daughter and husband. We were going to the Pumpkin Farm. Then my oldest daughter who has epilepsy amongst other disorders, had a  cluster of seizures at school, hit her head and had to be taken to the hospital. That was where I was, while my youngest and my husband went to the Pumpkin Farm. I missed her picking out her first pumpkin. I have never missed something like that. Needless to say I was in my feelings about it. I was upset that my daughter is still dealing with seizures and we haven’t gotten it all work out plus I missed my baby choosing her first pumpkin. I went about my day. I took a shower when we finally got home, and there is where I cried. I just cried, where no one could see or hear. After that I was good to go. Went and taught fifth grade girls about the Bible and led worship for third through fifth grade. Sometime crying just feels good!

By the way, my husband knew how I would feel about missing the Pumpkin picking so he recorded the whole thing. I got to watch it all before I left for church. I saw her go to each pumpkin and touch it, try to pick them up. She picked a little white one, then picked one for her big sissy to paint purple for Epilepsy Awareness month coming up. She also picked a green gourd for some reason. It was nice to be able to watch it, not quite the same but it really helped me get passed my feelings.

I had to do some transforming today. From what I had planned to something new, different and unwanted but I did it. I feel stronger for it. Crying doesn’t make you weak, like I used to think, it makes you stronger, more empowered than ever.

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