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Everyone has a dream. We all have something we want, a goal we want to reach. The secret to getting it is to visualize it. I have wanted to start my own childcare for years. It took a friend asking me to watch her son for me to really see my potential as a business owner. I wouldn’t say business is booming but I would say I am successful and close to my goal. I make more than I was when I was working for someone else plus I get to be home for my family. I make my own hours and choose what children come each day. I base it on the good of my family, then look at the needs of the family bringing their child to me for care.

It takes hard work and determination to visualize and meet our goals and even deadlines we have set for ourselves. There is the fear and potential of failure, pressure to give up because it is too hard, and busy schedules. I have a goal to start writing again. I haven’t done it in years. I visualize each day what my goal is for that day only (remember my word for the year is Present). Today, I am writing a blog then checking out my freelance site to see if there are any jobs I am interested in. My ultimate goal is to write a book. But, it will take a little while to get there.

The more detailed your visualizations are, the more likely they are to manifest in your life. Sitting down and writing out your plan each day will help you go into detail and get there more efficiently. Believe in who you are and what your goal is. Without that, there is no way you will accomplish it. There are methods to get you to visualize your goals more clearly. I have come up with three techniques to help you get there.

1. Treasure Map Technique. This technique requires real imagination and creativity. Imagine your goal to be a treasure chest filled with gold and jewels. Whatever you find to be beautiful. Then, map out how you are going to get there. Draw the map complete with the big red X and picture of the treasure chest. 

2. Receptive Visualization. This is the technique I most often use. This requires some quiet, serene surroundings where you can think and visualize what you want. Each day I visualize how I want my day to go, I pray about it, then I execute it. It doesn’t always go exactly the way I would like, but most days my visualization plays out. I need to be realistic in my expectations and think of all that could go wrong and prepare for them. But, I don’t dwell on what could go wrong. I simply put them in my mind so I am prepared to handle any situation. 

3. Altered Memory Visualization. Let’s face it, things aren’t always going to turn out the way we hoped. This technique comes into play on those days. Look at the issue at hand, why things went wrong. Then, visualize all the different ways you could have handled it. Looking at what went wrong can help you visualize what you will do different if you find yourself in the situation again. 

Visualization is a technique anyone can master. It can help you break out of any current limitations you have placed on yourself, as well as any others have placed on you with negativity. Don’t settle for mediocrity when you have the potential to be great. Let me know if you need help or post any stories you may have about the power of visualization in your life.

Align

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  It is often easy to lose the momentum we need to keep at it in the new year. Resolutions have been made but are often difficult to keep. We make unrealistic goals for ourselves then become frustrated when unable to keep them. Why is that? It is because our goals often do not align with what God has in store for us. We want our lives to look a certain way and are hard on ourselves when what we want doesn’t happen. Our lives are not our own. We belong to God, our lives need to align with His plan. He will put in front of us what He has chosen for us. It is up to us to live according to it.

There are ways we can stay aligned with God’s purpose, even if we are struggling to be productive. These are tips that I hope to execute in the new year.

1. Plan when you will have quiet time each day. This is something I have already been doing in my life. I love the mornings. I have to get up pretty early, between 4:00 am-5:00 am, in order to get in my workout and quiet time. During this time I do my Bible readings, devotions, journaling and prayer time. It is usually 30-45 minutes each day. My husband and I have also started a new marriage devotional that we do each night. Quiet time together, reflecting on our marriage will make us stronger together.

2. Make a list of your daily priorities. Life can be so busy! Making a list helps keep you on track. This is something I often do on the weekends. However, being a mom of four, I also have to make lists during the week to remember to make appointments or get stuff together to help my daughter apply for college.

3. Choose a word for the year. This is something I talked about yesterday. Take time to think about what you want that word to be. You don’t have to choose it right away. Think about your life, what you need to change and choose the word carefully and thoughtfully. This will help keep you on your chosen path.

4. Put away your phone. Believe it our not, our phones can cause so much stress and drama in our lives. I make it a point to have my ringer off during various points of the day. The only social media I try to use during the day is my business accounts. I post pictures of the kids I care for so the parents can see what they are up to. I am looking to change the use of phones and social media in my household. My kids actually don’t use it that much. It is my husband and I that need to work on that!

5. Use mealtimes to check in with God. When my teens were younger we did family devotion time at dinner. We used this time to sit together each night and discuss our day. We then did Bible drills and a daily devotion that our church provided us with. Now, they are older and it is harder to get this done, more so because of the toddler we have at our table. She demands a little more attention. I think it is time to start implementing short devotion again in our home to get her used to doing it.

Productivity is best when aligned with God’s purpose for you. Keep perspective by putting God first in your life.

Resolve

Resolve   It’s been a while since my last blog, months actually. Life kind of got in the way. Life with four kids, husband and running my own business. Things can get busy. No matter how organized I think I am. I know you have been hearing the word resolution thrown out there a lot these last few days. I know you probably made one. Resolutions can be so hard and if they are broken you feel down on yourself, even if just a little. I have really likes the idea I have been seeing about a word for the year. People choose a word and make a plan on how they want it to be a part of their life in the new year. I have seen words like Intentional, what a great word to try to accomplish in the new year. I think living your life intentionally is a great idea. The key after choosing a word is to sit down and make a plan on how to execute it. Without that plan, the word is useless, because just like the resolution to lose weight or quit smoking it gets forgotten. Not on purpose but because life gets in the way.

I have chosen a word for the year, after a lot of contemplating. I chose Present. I choose to live in the present this year. Not to dread the past or worry about the future. Why? Because it is all in God’s hand. I want to be more present with my children and the children who I care for each day. I want to be more present in my service work at church. Teaching younger kids about the Gospel is important and needed in this day. I look forward to being more present in my marriage, maybe it will draw us closer. I have started a plan, although I have failed to write it down. Part of my plan is to restart our marriage devotion, something that has proved to work well for our relationship as well as our relationship with God.

So make a plan and do your best to live it out this year.

Abundance

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Abundance is, in large part, an attitude

Living an abundant is everyone’s dream. We all want to live a life in which we feel happy and fulfilled. As the quote at the beginning suggests, it’s all about attitude. Your attitude is something you have complete control over. Here are some tips to help you have the abundant life you have been searching for.

  1. Have abundance mentality. This is the mentality that there is enough  for everyone, so someone else’s gain isn’t your loss. By having abundance mentality you won’t feel jealous when someone else succeeds. You know you can have your own success.
  2. Be grateful for what you have. You need to look at what you have and stop complaining about what you don’t have. You can have a grateful spirit no matter how much or how little you have. There are people who need to go through a painful loss before they can see what they have. Don’t let that happen to you.
  3. Smile. So simple, yet so effective. Changing how when and how often you smile can impact and change the course of your day. Even if your day isn’t going as planned you can choose to respond positively. Smiling sends a positive message to yourself and others that you are winning at life.
  4. Start your day right. How you start your day will greatly influence how it goes. This looks different for everyone. For me it looks like this
    • Wake up
    • Exercise (four days a week)
    • Bible Readings and devotions
    • Organize for work
  5. Make the most out of every opportunity. Once you have an opportunity explore the full use of it. Don’t let it pass, half-used. Look for other ways to use it. Maybe combine it with something else to create a new opportunity.
  6. Enjoy your life. Living an abundant life means you should be able to enjoy your life without waiting on something big to happen. You can be happy right now with what you have.

I hope these steps will help you on your personal journey of feeling more empowered.

Brilliant

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What does is mean to be brilliant? How can you obtain it? Where do you start? I have 6 tips to help all women obtain this. Some women are content where they are, some want more. Both are okay, you don’t always have to work harder or longer. You can achieve your goals while being brilliant. You can stay home with your kids and be brilliant as well. Let’s dive into those tips.

  1. Keep a joy list, starting now. On a sheet of paper make two columns. On the left side write down everything you absolutely LOVE to do. Everything, in your life, career, whatever it may be. Build on it. On the right side, write down the things that you hate to do. Anything that gives you the feeling of ick.
  2. Make a plan and commit. Everyday do one less thing on your ick list, try outsourcing. Hire someone else to clean, an accountant to figure our your finances, eat out instead of cooking and cleaning up after the cooking.
  3. Write a list of people you love spending time with. These are the people who make you feel like life is fabulous. These are the people who give you permission to let your greatness shine. Try spending time with at least two of these people a week. Even if it is the same people every week, make sure you are spending time with them
  4. Get clear and honest about what you want. Write it down, communicate it to other people around you. Don’t forget to pray about. The power prayer has on out lives is undeniable. Ask God what is His Will, are you living it out or living the way the world tells you to live? What God has planned for you may or may not be the same thing. So remember, take it to the Lord.
  5. Seek to create, not compete. Everyone is unique. We all have our talents, things we are good at. Let’s use that to create something awesome, instead of always competing to be the best. Sometimes things turn out better when we work together.
  6. Just be you. You are enough, just as you are, right now. You were created to be who you are, not who someone else is. God created you in His image. Embrace it, be confident in knowing, there is only one you.

The Intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. Albert Einstein

Energetic

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Energetic. What does that mean for you? It isn’t the same for everyone. I used to be energetic in the fact that I worked out twice a day. I was a little obsessive about that. Now, it means something else. It means that I get up, work, do the “mom” and “wife” thing, go to bed hopefully by 11:00 pm. Only to get up and do it all again. I’m energetic when it comes to my kids, my work and most of all the Bible. I wake to read my Bible each day and spend time in prayer. I love teaching about the Bible to kids. I am super excited about teaching the entire group tomorrow night about how the Bible is true and useful today.

My energy is dispersed all over now. I workout, but a few times a week as opposed to a few times a day. I am energetic in my fight to spread epilepsy awareness. My daughter and husband have it, different types. My daughter suffers daily, my husbands is more controlled. I was energetic today when, after work, I went out to vote. I feel passionately about our right to vote and choose our leaders. I hope you found the energy to get out there.

There are some daily habits you could work on if you need that extra push to feel energetic.

  1. You have heard it a million times, why not make it a million and one? Start the day off with a good nights sleep. Your brain needs it, your body needs it. To quote Ms. Lorelai Gilmore “You have to sleep. It’s what keeps you pretty.”
  2. Take small breaks throughout the day. When I worked away from home I would get 1-2 hour breaks, all at once. Believe it or not that made the day harder. I would come home, do some clean up around the house, get dinner all set to be cooked and head back to work. I never sat down on my long break. That is until I was pregnant, then I went home and slept.
  3. Eat well. Fruits and veggies is what we need. Not chocolate and caffeine. Those stimulates can confuse your brain and your body.
  4. Exercise regularly. I fall short of this time and time again. Tomorrow is already Wednesday and it will be my first day at the gym this week… oops!!

There you go, a few steps you can try each day to get the energy back that you have been longing for.

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Purposeful

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Living life should always have purpose. Some kind of meaning. No matter who you are. I don’t just mean as a mother, or a wife. You need to figure out who you are and live your life to the fullest. I believe in living each day with intention and purpose. Live a purpose driven life. What does that look like? How can one live purposefully each day?

There are five steps that can help you succeed at this.

  1. Live in the present moment. Many people are either regretting what happened in the past or worrying about the future. God has a plan for you. It isn’t up to you to know His plan. It is your job to live according to His Will for you. Once you start living in the here and now you will soon see what it is God wants for you.
  2. Focus on one thing. As we live day-to-day we often catch ourselves multi-tasking, trying to accomplish more than one thing at a time. This often leads to stuff not getting done correctly and sometimes having to do a task over in order to get it the way it is supposed to be. If we slow down and do one thing at a time, we will get it done and save time in the process. Life doesn’t have to be so hectic and rushed all the time. We get more stressed when we thing it all has to be done at once.
  3. Make changes today, not tomorrow. I was at my daughter’s youth group retreat this weekend. For 24 hours these teens learn how to be godly men and women. It was amazing, eye-opening, to  see how these kids choose to spend that 24 hours. No phones, up at 5:00 am to read their Bible and get the most out of this time. At the very end the youth pastor asked them to write three things down they took away from the retreat. I have three kids that were and they each took something different away. They were asked to make a goal. They each made a different goal. But, they were all told to begin right away, don’t wait. If you are planning to make a change, do it now, don’t wait.
  4. Be of service to others. This is something my church is adamant about. Jesus came to serve, not be served. He washed the feet of His disciples. I am a children’s leader at my church and I absolutely love it. I love teaching as much as I can to the younger generation about Jesus and what He did for them, how much He loves them. I went with my oldest daughter to Soles for Jesus. We sorted shoes to send over to Africa. They often do not have money to purchase shoes. Along with these shoes for their feet they receive the Gospel. That is truly amazing. People from here got to Africa, wash these people’s feet and give them a pair of very much-needed shoes. It was humbling to know we were the last people to touch these shoes that were going there with such a powerful message.
  5. Practice. We need to put our intentions into practice. I intend to do yoga tomorrow before my Bible reading and devotion. That means I have to get up earlier, get ready and do my yoga. Then I have to do my readings and devotion, before 6:00 am, when the first child of the day will arrive. If there is an area that you feel led to grow in then you must practice it everyday. Not here and there or whenever you feel like it. It has to be everyday, in order for it to become second nature or habit.

These five steps seem easy enough to follow, but I can tell you they can be hard. On days that you just don’t want to do life, you have to get up, be intentional and purposeful.