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Resolve

Resolve   It’s been a while since my last blog, months actually. Life kind of got in the way. Life with four kids, husband and running my own business. Things can get busy. No matter how organized I think I am. I know you have been hearing the word resolution thrown out there a lot these last few days. I know you probably made one. Resolutions can be so hard and if they are broken you feel down on yourself, even if just a little. I have really likes the idea I have been seeing about a word for the year. People choose a word and make a plan on how they want it to be a part of their life in the new year. I have seen words like Intentional, what a great word to try to accomplish in the new year. I think living your life intentionally is a great idea. The key after choosing a word is to sit down and make a plan on how to execute it. Without that plan, the word is useless, because just like the resolution to lose weight or quit smoking it gets forgotten. Not on purpose but because life gets in the way.

I have chosen a word for the year, after a lot of contemplating. I chose Present. I choose to live in the present this year. Not to dread the past or worry about the future. Why? Because it is all in God’s hand. I want to be more present with my children and the children who I care for each day. I want to be more present in my service work at church. Teaching younger kids about the Gospel is important and needed in this day. I look forward to being more present in my marriage, maybe it will draw us closer. I have started a plan, although I have failed to write it down. Part of my plan is to restart our marriage devotion, something that has proved to work well for our relationship as well as our relationship with God.

So make a plan and do your best to live it out this year.

Abundance

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Abundance is, in large part, an attitude

Living an abundant is everyone’s dream. We all want to live a life in which we feel happy and fulfilled. As the quote at the beginning suggests, it’s all about attitude. Your attitude is something you have complete control over. Here are some tips to help you have the abundant life you have been searching for.

  1. Have abundance mentality. This is the mentality that there is enough  for everyone, so someone else’s gain isn’t your loss. By having abundance mentality you won’t feel jealous when someone else succeeds. You know you can have your own success.
  2. Be grateful for what you have. You need to look at what you have and stop complaining about what you don’t have. You can have a grateful spirit no matter how much or how little you have. There are people who need to go through a painful loss before they can see what they have. Don’t let that happen to you.
  3. Smile. So simple, yet so effective. Changing how when and how often you smile can impact and change the course of your day. Even if your day isn’t going as planned you can choose to respond positively. Smiling sends a positive message to yourself and others that you are winning at life.
  4. Start your day right. How you start your day will greatly influence how it goes. This looks different for everyone. For me it looks like this
    • Wake up
    • Exercise (four days a week)
    • Bible Readings and devotions
    • Organize for work
  5. Make the most out of every opportunity. Once you have an opportunity explore the full use of it. Don’t let it pass, half-used. Look for other ways to use it. Maybe combine it with something else to create a new opportunity.
  6. Enjoy your life. Living an abundant life means you should be able to enjoy your life without waiting on something big to happen. You can be happy right now with what you have.

I hope these steps will help you on your personal journey of feeling more empowered.

Brilliant

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What does is mean to be brilliant? How can you obtain it? Where do you start? I have 6 tips to help all women obtain this. Some women are content where they are, some want more. Both are okay, you don’t always have to work harder or longer. You can achieve your goals while being brilliant. You can stay home with your kids and be brilliant as well. Let’s dive into those tips.

  1. Keep a joy list, starting now. On a sheet of paper make two columns. On the left side write down everything you absolutely LOVE to do. Everything, in your life, career, whatever it may be. Build on it. On the right side, write down the things that you hate to do. Anything that gives you the feeling of ick.
  2. Make a plan and commit. Everyday do one less thing on your ick list, try outsourcing. Hire someone else to clean, an accountant to figure our your finances, eat out instead of cooking and cleaning up after the cooking.
  3. Write a list of people you love spending time with. These are the people who make you feel like life is fabulous. These are the people who give you permission to let your greatness shine. Try spending time with at least two of these people a week. Even if it is the same people every week, make sure you are spending time with them
  4. Get clear and honest about what you want. Write it down, communicate it to other people around you. Don’t forget to pray about. The power prayer has on out lives is undeniable. Ask God what is His Will, are you living it out or living the way the world tells you to live? What God has planned for you may or may not be the same thing. So remember, take it to the Lord.
  5. Seek to create, not compete. Everyone is unique. We all have our talents, things we are good at. Let’s use that to create something awesome, instead of always competing to be the best. Sometimes things turn out better when we work together.
  6. Just be you. You are enough, just as you are, right now. You were created to be who you are, not who someone else is. God created you in His image. Embrace it, be confident in knowing, there is only one you.

The Intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. Albert Einstein

Energetic

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Energetic. What does that mean for you? It isn’t the same for everyone. I used to be energetic in the fact that I worked out twice a day. I was a little obsessive about that. Now, it means something else. It means that I get up, work, do the “mom” and “wife” thing, go to bed hopefully by 11:00 pm. Only to get up and do it all again. I’m energetic when it comes to my kids, my work and most of all the Bible. I wake to read my Bible each day and spend time in prayer. I love teaching about the Bible to kids. I am super excited about teaching the entire group tomorrow night about how the Bible is true and useful today.

My energy is dispersed all over now. I workout, but a few times a week as opposed to a few times a day. I am energetic in my fight to spread epilepsy awareness. My daughter and husband have it, different types. My daughter suffers daily, my husbands is more controlled. I was energetic today when, after work, I went out to vote. I feel passionately about our right to vote and choose our leaders. I hope you found the energy to get out there.

There are some daily habits you could work on if you need that extra push to feel energetic.

  1. You have heard it a million times, why not make it a million and one? Start the day off with a good nights sleep. Your brain needs it, your body needs it. To quote Ms. Lorelai Gilmore “You have to sleep. It’s what keeps you pretty.”
  2. Take small breaks throughout the day. When I worked away from home I would get 1-2 hour breaks, all at once. Believe it or not that made the day harder. I would come home, do some clean up around the house, get dinner all set to be cooked and head back to work. I never sat down on my long break. That is until I was pregnant, then I went home and slept.
  3. Eat well. Fruits and veggies is what we need. Not chocolate and caffeine. Those stimulates can confuse your brain and your body.
  4. Exercise regularly. I fall short of this time and time again. Tomorrow is already Wednesday and it will be my first day at the gym this week… oops!!

There you go, a few steps you can try each day to get the energy back that you have been longing for.

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Purposeful

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Living life should always have purpose. Some kind of meaning. No matter who you are. I don’t just mean as a mother, or a wife. You need to figure out who you are and live your life to the fullest. I believe in living each day with intention and purpose. Live a purpose driven life. What does that look like? How can one live purposefully each day?

There are five steps that can help you succeed at this.

  1. Live in the present moment. Many people are either regretting what happened in the past or worrying about the future. God has a plan for you. It isn’t up to you to know His plan. It is your job to live according to His Will for you. Once you start living in the here and now you will soon see what it is God wants for you.
  2. Focus on one thing. As we live day-to-day we often catch ourselves multi-tasking, trying to accomplish more than one thing at a time. This often leads to stuff not getting done correctly and sometimes having to do a task over in order to get it the way it is supposed to be. If we slow down and do one thing at a time, we will get it done and save time in the process. Life doesn’t have to be so hectic and rushed all the time. We get more stressed when we thing it all has to be done at once.
  3. Make changes today, not tomorrow. I was at my daughter’s youth group retreat this weekend. For 24 hours these teens learn how to be godly men and women. It was amazing, eye-opening, to  see how these kids choose to spend that 24 hours. No phones, up at 5:00 am to read their Bible and get the most out of this time. At the very end the youth pastor asked them to write three things down they took away from the retreat. I have three kids that were and they each took something different away. They were asked to make a goal. They each made a different goal. But, they were all told to begin right away, don’t wait. If you are planning to make a change, do it now, don’t wait.
  4. Be of service to others. This is something my church is adamant about. Jesus came to serve, not be served. He washed the feet of His disciples. I am a children’s leader at my church and I absolutely love it. I love teaching as much as I can to the younger generation about Jesus and what He did for them, how much He loves them. I went with my oldest daughter to Soles for Jesus. We sorted shoes to send over to Africa. They often do not have money to purchase shoes. Along with these shoes for their feet they receive the Gospel. That is truly amazing. People from here got to Africa, wash these people’s feet and give them a pair of very much-needed shoes. It was humbling to know we were the last people to touch these shoes that were going there with such a powerful message.
  5. Practice. We need to put our intentions into practice. I intend to do yoga tomorrow before my Bible reading and devotion. That means I have to get up earlier, get ready and do my yoga. Then I have to do my readings and devotion, before 6:00 am, when the first child of the day will arrive. If there is an area that you feel led to grow in then you must practice it everyday. Not here and there or whenever you feel like it. It has to be everyday, in order for it to become second nature or habit.

These five steps seem easy enough to follow, but I can tell you they can be hard. On days that you just don’t want to do life, you have to get up, be intentional and purposeful.

Thriving

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Phew! I have so busy this week. Four kids plus owning a business means I am always up, on by toes and busy. I feel like I haven’t had any time to sit, let alone write. There was Halloween, work and more work, one of my kids turned 14 and I had to go on my kids’ youth group retreat. I have a daughter with epilepsy and a few other disorders and she is a Senior in highschool. She didn’t want to miss her last retreat and the Pastor and leaders are a little nervous because she has had several tonic clonic seizures while at church.

Anyway, lets talk about becoming a woman who thrives. Most of our lives are busy and chaotic, many are often late, unorganized maybe even argumentative with family, friends and their bosses. In order to cope with busy lives we often develop bad habits, bingeing on food or Netflix, maybe smoking or even drinking, just to get over the stress of the day.

Many women today are just surviving. They live to eat, earn, produce and just do what is needed to survive until the next day. Women are meant to thrive, not just survive! Women who are empowered and the ones who feel empowered are the women who are able to drive growth.

To thrive is to stop believing you can control everything…

That’s right ladies, you cannot control everything in the world.  Being an empowered or thriving woman means you know when can and when you can’t control something. So many things are simply our of our reach. We can’t do it, so we feel like we failed. You will feel empowered and in control when you have succeeded at controlling or dominating your circumstance, job, marriage or career, but that won’t last long. It is beyond our capacity as humans to control situations, feeling, how others act and how they think. As soon as you accept that reality, you will fall into a peace with yourself, your life. This acceptance will boost your spirit and help you thrive in all circumstances, no matter what.

To thrive is to stop pretending you possess inhuman powers to do everything…

Women are known for their ability to multi-task. Just because you do this does NOT mean you can manage all things all the time. Accepting this fact is the second key to thriving in this world, especially if you are a woman.

Everyone only gets 24 hours in a day. That is 24 hours to get what is needed done. God designed it that way. He designed it so that for part of that time, our bodies need rest. We need to organize and prioritize what needs to be done each day. Each day I have a schedule, I used to hate getting off my scheduled time to do things. Now, I have a toddler, something I haven’t had in a while. She schedules the day for the most part now. She needs her nap at the same time each day and it lasts three hours! During that time, I usually get my work and writing done. My schedule revolves around her. Including when I stop and play. She needs me more than the dishes need to be washed, or dinner needs to be done. When she wants to play or just snuggle, I am there, whenever she needs it.

To thrive is to start saying “NO” to things you should…

People who say yes to every task they are asked to do often end up disappointing not only themselves but the people expecting them to do the task they said they could do. This applies to everyone, women who work, those who are home, full-time mothers and so much more.

I used to do this, especially with my church. If they asked I was there. I was doing so much at church that I was there as  much as the pastors! Some weeks, more. I thought that if they needed me I had to do it because well, God would be mad if I didn’t. When I got pregnant with my youngest, I was high risk and wasn’t allowed to do all that I had been doing. I was told not to work and not to serve at church, my blood pressure was extremely high and it was dangerous not only to me but to the baby. Guess what? My church did great without me and other people stepped in to serve in the areas I was working in. Now, I still serve but only when I can. I have a lot of down time to spend with family and even in fellowship with the Lord. He wants that more anyway.

To thrive is to put yourself first and prioritize your health…

This is hard, even for me. As a mom of four kids, three teens, one toddler and one with several disorders, it is hard to take the time to take care of myself. This is vitally important. If we don’t care for ourselves, how can we care for others. If I am sick, who is going to get mt daughter to her appointments. If I have a health issue and wind up in the hospital, I don’t get paid, as a business owner, I close and make nothing. I have learned that I need days for me. Days to go to the doctor, the dentist, even a haircut or mani/pedi.

It is imperative that women take care of themselves. We take care of so many other people around us. They will all be okay while we are gone for a few hours. Feeling and being healthy boosts confidence, which women need to thrive and not just survive in this world.

To thrive is to know it is an ongoing journey…

Thriving is not a destination. It is an ongoing journey that continues for a long time. Once you start this journey, it only gets better, there is no looking back. Ladies, if you are looking to reaching that point in your life where you can finally say you are thriving, look ahead. The journey is about to get better.

Renewal

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Today it is on my heart to share with you the five steps to renewing your mind, biblically. I find the Bible to be not only inspirational but extremely empowering as a woman. I love to read about all God wants us to do, for ourselves, our families and for Him. Many people think the Bible is sexist, man driven and inspired. That is not true. First of all, the Bible is the inspired Word of God. Meaning, He chose what was to be put in it. Yes, other men put the words to paper but He spoke them. Second, there are some amazing women in the Bible, Ruth, Esther, Mary, the list goes on. God has expectations of us. The question is, will you follow them or follow how society tells you to behave and live your life?

Step 1: Ask the Lord to guard and direct your mind. Our minds are the place of our intellect, reasoning and intentions. Behavior begins in our minds, as does transformation. They way we think will determine how each day of our lives turn out. We often don’t look to Jesus for protection, direction and oversight of our minds. This is something we need to start our day praying about. Jesus, help me focus on where You want my mind-set today. Amen. 

Step 2: Recognize the source of self-focused and self-defeating thoughts. Our adversary is crafty, he is smart and he is always against us and the Lord. He creeps into our thoughts often. Placing things there to disarm us. We are constantly at battle spiritually. We must pray. Confess. Read the Bible. Pray more. This is the only way to keep our thoughts on God, keep Satan far from us. Fight the good fight for our lives. We must recognize the enemy, and fight him with the power of God’s truth and through the Scriptures.

Step 3: Replace self-focused thinking with a God-focused mindset. It takes work to focus our minds on Jesus. It is hard. Our minds often wander to wherever it wants to go, instead of where it should go. It takes practice, training, daily. It isn’t something that is automatic. We must nurture our minds and focus on where we want it to go. A great verse to help with this is Colossians 3:1-2 If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. 

Step 4: Rest in the truth that you are accepted in Jesus Christ. Pray for the Lord to protect our minds. I mentioned this earlier. It is important to pray each and every day for Him to protect our minds. It is also good to rest in Him. There will be successful days as well as unsuccessful days. It is something we can work on each day. I challenge you to rest in knowing you are His and He is yours, forever. He wants you to be successful but will not give up on you when mistakes are made. After all, He created us to make mistakes so we rely on Him as much as possible, in all things.

Step 5: Repeat steps 1-4 daily. There is no fear in God’s love. When we feel afraid or defeated we can trust in God’s love. It will never fade away. He loves us, forever. Ultimately, He would like for us to be more like Jesus. His thoughts never deviated from the Father. He was always in fellowship with Him. We can strive for that but can we accomplish that? Probably not, we are not perfect. God created us to need Him. He created us to search for Him, to feel the love He has for us. If we are in constant fellowship with Him then what would He have left to accomplish in us?

Tell me: How do you keep your mind from dwelling on unhealthy, untrue or distracting thoughts?

Comment your answers below…